So much of our way of being in this world is based on our self-image, our identity, the way we see ourselves, our sense of self-worth built on what we consider to be our inner reality.

Unfortunately, that is not necessarily the way the world sees us. They see how we show up, based on our behaviours and form judgments on that basis. This is their perception, but it does represent external reality. Quite often there is a disconnect between our self-assessment and the way others around us experience us.

This disconnect is because of the blind spots that we cannot see, what the world knows about us and what we do not know. We are blind to this truth.

Getting to find out what these blind spots are is the beginning of our journey to know ourselves and start a process of self-reflection and development.

Abraham Maslow points out that we are confronted with an ongoing series of choices throughout life between safety and growth, dependence and independence, regression and progression, immaturity, and maturity.

We grow forward when the delights of growth and anxieties of safety are greater than the anxieties of growth and the delights of safety.

It becomes clear why so many of us refuse to step out of our comfort zone. We cling to the safety of the known instead of embracing the “delight of growth” that only comes from discovering the unknown, the blind spots that will allow us to embrace change and fulfil our true potential.

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